FROZEN IN TIME

Have you ever heard people telling you 'forget about it, let it go-it's in the past?"
Have you ever wondered or asked yourself why you seem stuck in that moment? I do love three things and I will tell you about them again; books, coffee and good music. I can sit down to a good book, sip some coffee while listening to some good music. To achieve this I visit the school library every day and walk through the floors-and browse through the shelves. I have some friends who do not know how the school online search system works (OPAC)-and some of them ask me where they might locate certain books. I would more often than not direct them appropriately but it's not because I use OPAC, but because I browse through the shelves. I pick a section, go through all the books and then walk to the next. There's something about books that draws me to them. I wish I had a better way of explaining how good it feels looking through those shelves for a good book.
So, today I picked a book "Thinkers of the East" by Idries Shah and was drawn to it, first by the quote " The rights that others have over you,remember them. The rights that you have over others, forget them."
It got me thinking-how often do we do the opposite?
Why is it so easy to forget the rights others have over us and remember the ones we have over others? Simple-it is because of our ego and the need to feel superior. It hit me that every day in whatever we do, one of the main objectives is to make the 'me' happy. It is all about being happy. Happiness in this case is simply about pride and not peace of mind.
I have often heard people say that they are having a bad day. If you ask them why, or what it is about their day that makes them declare it bad, they say 'things are not working out as I planned.'
If you were a driver on the wheel then you would say that. We often forget that we are people and we have minds. We process thoughts and at times desires that are manifested in our actions. We also forget that the same mind, can choose to make out a situation out of nothing, simply because we have these preconceived notions that we are supposed to have things work our way.
We get frozen in time, because we keep playing one moment over and over again. Each time we play that moment we forget to switch roles and often play the victim. It becomes more of a state in which 'I was wronged, it shouldn't have happened like that, I did not want it to happen like that, blah blah blah!'

Each time you replay an occurrence in the past, try switching roles and thinking of the other perspective-maybe then you will not be so frozen in time,who knows?

If You Think...

If you think you are beaten, you are
If you think you dare not, you don't
If you'd like to win, but you think you can't
It's almost a cinch you won't.

If you think you'll lose, you've lost
For out in the world you'll find
Success begins with a fellow's will
It's all in a state of mind.

Full many a game is lost
ér ére a play is run
And many a coward fails
ér ére his works begun.

Think big and your deeds will grow.
Think small and you will lag behind.
Think you can and you will.
It's all in a state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are
You've got to think high to rise,
You've got to be sure of yourself,
Before you can win a prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late, the man who wins
Is the fellow who thinks he can.

Anon.

This is one of the many poems that goes to show how much we are what we think. Our actions are a result of our thoughts. Rene'Descartes, a French philosopher and psychologist, talked of dualism, the mind and how it affects the body. He is well known for his famous tag line, "I think therefore, I am."
Positive thinking goes beyond believing you can it is visible in your actions and speech.