- Being blocked on Facebook
- Being unfollowed on Twitter
- Deleting their numbers from your phonebook
- Not, hanging out with your frenemy at all, and your mutual friends have to stop talking about your frenemy in your presence.
So, well- my friend did obsess about a Guy so much that all she could eat, breathe and sleep was him. So, when I did tell her that the Guy she is into has a girlfriend- she yelled at me so much, I thought the whole of MegaPlaza in Kisumu declared me a witch. I watched her stomp off in heels (which was a very beautiful sight, because now I believe that those actresses in movies really do get their freak on when they stomp off in heels!)
She has not been talking to me, and I learned that I failed the "Chameleon Training Test."
Girls start doing this at the tender age of five. You know it happens when girls bond and share their emotions and feelings- you are taught or modeled to tune into someone's feelings, and when you don't you always say "I know the feeling, I have been there myself" or "I understand how you feel, but you will get through this, we will help" - and then the stories start trickling in.
So, I was honest and too blunt- and she did not take it well.
I failed in delivering "bad news."
But it came more like an alarm to me: I respect relationships because I have had the best experience with people who butt in and soon we are not a couple but "A COUPLE" of girls and one guy- such that two increases to three or four, and the gender balance is off scale.
Talk of moving from 1:1 to 1:3
So, to have my friend obsess about this guy and go after him when he's clearly with another girl whom he's actually living with and his boys know he is into- was her wasting her time and personality. I told her and wham! she nucleared me!
So, for all it is worth I learned two lessons:
- The truth is Ugly because the Lie is always wearing make-up takes our breath away
- Tell the truth and be free of a guilty conscience.