- will this comment help the organization?
- will it help realize our vision or attract and retain customers?
- will it help the person I am talking to?
- will it help the person I am talking about?
If your answers are: no, no, no, no- Shut up!
It's true that bad bosses create an emotional climate with their attitudes and behavior but you can choose to not let it be your topic of concern. If you want to dwell on it you will only grow into a gossip and there's nothing as active and a quick way of losing your job and integrity by fueling the rumor vine.
You can learn so much more about being a good leader from a bad boss so don't despair, turn things around in your favor. And sometimes while bashing your boss you demean yourself without intending to or knowing that you really are doing so- because if he's so mean and doesn't know what he's doing, why are you reporting to him? Why not report for someone else who is brilliant? Your bad boss as you see him/her might be the reason why you gain good leadership skills- so if he/she does something you feel is untoward ask yourself what you could have done- and why?
But let it be clear asking for sexual favors, stealing, lying to cover up some organizational crime or being flogged does not apply here.
So, if you ask me, what happens when work's all about complains of the boss, I will share with you what I will be doing- pulling out my novel and reading a good story. I would rather use the time to develop myself, because let's face it- if your boss is bad- people will complain and you cannot cut off their tongues while they do this- if one thing is certain- you can forward them this post so they can learn from my experience.
He/she is the boss today, and you will be the boss tomorrow.
Arm yourself with the necessary skills so as not to be the one who is bashed tomorrow.