I have to confess that I am a fan of David Niven's books. He always has the simplest ways of writing about research and making it applicable to life. His books are pocket size and you can read them anywhere!
I have been reading his book "The 100 Simple Secrets of Great Relationships."
My favorite take on relationships is number 60: You can't find without looking. It got me thinking of all the hubs you meet young people and they say that they are "single but not searching." What happens is that in no time they get to liking each other and a short relationship is established. So, for a person who was not searching love or lust found them so fast, how ironical that always is!
Most relationships start after high school , meetings at the workplace, in a bus, camp, party, club, wedding and the list is endless! For most people they have found the partner of their dreams in such places but for others they have grown apprehensive due to relationships gone sour.
At times, according to David, you have to seek acquaintances or networks at different places. Get out of your comfort zone and interact with loads of people if you want to secure good friends, connections or even people to refer you to others.
How can one change the world if one identifies oneself with everybody?