I have been in both situations.
So, have you ever had a friend who played devil's advocate? Or better yet have you ever played that role?
Simply put a devil's advocate does take up a side or role that he or she may not necessarily agree with for the sake of the argument or debate in question. This is not because they love to taunt you, but because they seek to identify a weakness in your argument or want to steer you in the right direction.
So, why the need for a devil's advocate?
They were often Canon lawyers whose sole duty was to look into the lives of Canons proposed for Sainthood and dig up all their faults. This is so that no one would be declared a saint by the church until his life and deeds have been evaluated and approved as worthy of sainthood.
The Devil's Advocate also known as Advocatus Diabolis was very much established by the Catholic Church between 1587 and 1983.
Okay...I don't mean Al Pacino, but even then well, someone that plays some kind of role like did in the movie.
And truth be told it's not easy when you try to make your friend see that whatever they are doing is not going to add value to their life, but this doesn't mean that you shouldn't stop.
We all need that one person who is willing to bear the pain of our insults and mistrust when they choose not to take part or stand by and watch us devalue ourselves. So, are you such a friend? And I am not talking about putting your friends down every time before listening to all they have to say. I am talking about being the shoulder that is not only leaned on but also stepped on and never moving a muscle because you cherish your friend in the good and bad times.
So, why not take the time to thank your friends who "told you so" and when things did turn out like you were told were always there to look out for you and help you get back on your feet?
Also working on: Blinded: A Story of Love
How can one change the world if one identifies oneself with everybody?